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Troubles Can Give Us True Faith

From: Eduardo
To: Paul Cohen and Victor Hafichuk
Sent: Saturday, January 09, 2016 10:02 AM
Subject: Please, a help in an urgent matter

Victor, Paul,

Today my wife created a really big trouble at home, with physical aggression, hidden equipment that are important for my work, and hiding my smartphone that is extremely necessary to my work (I give support to customers)

She is again saying that I am doing many things I am not doing. While she keeps her sinful life mostly by internet.

Until now I was being patient, however now I have to take care of my children, and since I got a new project that will help me greatly, I cannot afford to have more troubles. My children needs a better place to start their life.

Since I want to obey the Lord, and every time more walk according His Will, I do not to hold what is not to hold. Sometimes is like giving my better to buy a ticket to travel on Titanic. I do not know the future and what is going to happen.

Sentiments are betraying me, and besides I love her, I do not want to continue with this situation.

Every day I am accused of things I am not doing, I have nothing to hide from anyone. 

I need direction.


From: Victor Hafichuk
To: Eduardo and Paul
Sent: Saturday, January 09, 2016 11:58 AM
Subject: RE: Please, a help in an urgent matter

Your problem, Eduardo, is that you “love” your wife.

Matthew 10:35-39 MKJV
(35)  For I have come to set a man against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law.
(36)  And a man’s foes shall be those of his own household.
(37)  He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me.
(38)  And he who does not take up his cross and follow Me is not worthy of Me.
(39)  He who finds his life shall lose it. And he who loses his life for My sake shall find it.

Luke 14:26-30 MKJV
(26)  If anyone comes to Me and does not hate his father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and his own life also, he cannot be My disciple.
(27)  And whoever does not bear his cross and come after Me, he cannot be My disciple.
(28)  For which of you, intending to build a tower, does not sit down first and count the cost, whether he may have enough to finish it;
(29)  lest perhaps, after he has laid the foundation and is not able to finish, all those seeing begin to mock him,
(30)  saying, This man began to build and was not able to finish.


From: Eduardo
To: Victor and Paul
Sent: Saturday, January 09, 2016 12:09 PM
Subject: RE: Please, a help in an urgent matter

Yes Victor, you are right.

These two passages are constant in front of me frequently. I am full of the life I am living, and I am saying enough!

I love my Lord, whatever is interfering this relationship with my Lord needs to cease now. 


From: Eduardo
To: Victor and Paul
Sent: Saturday, January 30, 2016 6:11 PM
Subject: Question


Sorry that I disturbed. I was apprehensive

My wife is much times violent, with words and sometimes physically. 

It is suffocating. I am asking her frequently to leave, but she has the law in her favor, so I need to be careful.

Today she took the day to talk with her sister.

Her sister is a liar, she left her family, 3 children alone. When she was married 2 of her children were from other 2 man. But keeps saying to everyone that she is a Christian. Even her Baptist church expelled her.

She told my wife that I was trying to have an affair with her. That I was lusting after her. And many other lies.

Then my wife came back and is accusing me of this, and many other lies.

That I have hidden sin. That I had sex with women from the companies that I visit.

It is all lies.

I endure this kind of accusation from many years.

What should be my correct position about this? Explain myself? Keep quiet? 

Should I pray about this?

I am feeling some need of revenge, to do something against her sister, like asking the Lord to do something against her, to show her lies. 

I know the Bible says that the revenge are from the Lord. But who am I? What to say to the Lord? He knows everything. I am probably just being fool again.

Please correct me, rebuke me, and help me with a direction. 

I just want to walk with my Lord. There is part of me that wanted to see her changing. But seems that Lord is truly against her.


From: Victor and Paul
To: Eduardo
Sent: Monday, February 01, 2016 10:55 PM
Subject: Re: Question

Eduardo, do you not know that the walk with the Lord is totally independent of your wife or anyone or anything else? Do you realize you can have faith anywhere under any circumstances? If you can’t walk with the Lord in the fires where you are, you have no faith at all and cannot walk with Him anywhere, no matter how well things may seem to be to you. 

And do you not also realize that the circumstances to which you are now subject are designed to bring you to true faith? Your words tell me you don’t believe. If your wife suddenly changed dramatically for good and began to be supportive, you would perish in religious unreality, in unbelief. 

Consider that the Lord is using her as your ticket to faith. Thank God for her and her sister, the lies and all.


Eduardo, Paul here. 

When you forsake your wife within, the way will be made without. 

From: Eduardo
To: Victor and Paul
Sent: Tuesday, February 09, 2016 7:19 AM
Subject: RE: Question


You correct Victor. I took these days thinking about you said and it comes to be the same thing the Lord already presented to me. 

My entire life I kept attached to people, or things; I am aware that my Lord is all that I need. I see that all the circumstances around me are for this reason. As a fool I walked around looking for rest, looking for shortcuts to the heaven based on painless walk. Thanks to the Lord, he exposed me, and my foolishness were displayed at midday to everyone see.

I do want to have the true and constant faith that is required by our Father. I know I have much to learn and much more to grow.


While I was in my blindness, not that I am fully recovered from it, many times the Lord took me to show circumstances from other people, and some had a special touch, or discernment with it. I did not understand at that time, it was like a reminder for times to come.

One of these circumstances was about a married couple, where the wife was always betraying him, and he quietly and lovingly went always to bring her home, no matter what she was doing against him (sometimes in the very act)

After three months she died, and his children acknowledged him as a man of God.

What you said remember this situation that frequently comes to my mind, and is a struggling point inside me. I am aware that when I forsake her, things will drastically change.

Lord, help me.


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