Uncle and Auntie went to visit the Pshebnicki family. They took
me along, and there I met their boy, Jim, who was about my age. He
and I showed off how much money we had in our change purses. Using
his trade instincts, Jim sold me a tiny keychain for ten cents. It
was likely worth one or two. When Uncle found out about it, he scolded
and ridiculed me for being a great fool. This incident haunted me
for many years and, I believe, subconsciously affected my financial
dealings for the rest of my life.
Particle –A Necessary Preparation
My time at Riverbend School was a painful one. I was hated by most
of the children and plagued by a bully for over a year. Adding salt
to my wounds, my cousin Ed, whom I expected to defend and support
me, sided with the bully and all the others at all times. Privately
with me, he was friendly; publicly he mocked and scoffed at me, falling
in with all the rest.
What a strange, perplexing thing! Being constantly betrayed by someone
I valued, I was thoroughly battered and bruised emotionally. Ed’s
laughter and glee at my misfortune hurt far more than the baseball
bashing my nose.
“With his lips the hater makes things seem what they are not,
but deceit is stored up inside him; When he says fair words, have
no belief in him; for in his heart are seven evils: Though his hate
is covered with deceit, his sin will be seen openly before the meeting
of the people” (Proverbs 26:24-26 BBE).
But I now see that these things were divinely purposed. Little did
I know God was preparing me for a future calling, wherein these kinds
of challenges would not defeat or faze me, though they would be many
and constant. The times would come that counted for far more than
healthy noses, sympathetic friends, and winning ball games, and I
would be ready to suffer for what was important.
Particle –A Mysterious Enmity
I have often pondered why Ed hated me and was so ready to betray
and take a public stand against me without provocation, no matter
what the circumstances or who was involved.
I now recount an incident that scared me, which is the only explanation
I can think of for his strange behavior. We had a family get-together
when I was perhaps five or six. I overheard Ed’s mother, Aunt
Jennie, complaining to her sister, Aunt Mary, about her marriage
and how she and her husband, Uncle Max, were fighting. She spoke
of breaking up, which in those days was a much more serious matter
than today.
Not knowing any better, I told Ed what I had heard, and I asked
him if these things were true. He was surprised, incredulous; I think
I saw color leave his face. I believe he was unaware of anything
serious happening with his parents. And perhaps his mother was simply
feeling sorry for herself and complaining without any real intent
to do anything.
The scary part was that, days later, my parents came to me in anger
and alarm, as though I had caused or highly contributed to the Boyechko
marriage breakdown. They told me that Ed and his brother, Dennis,
were living in fear. When his parents would prepare to go out, leaving
his brother and him at home by themselves, Ed would panic and cry,
begging them not to go. He was afraid he might not see one or either
of them again. When they asked him why he was acting that way, he,
of course, told them what I had repeated to him. I was told I had
a big mouth and was destroying a family! I felt terrible about it.
Ed’s parents reportedly assured him they would not abandon
them. I have wondered if they told Ed I was making up stories, either
to deny Aunt Jennie’s complaining of their problems, or to
pacify him. Whatever the case, I was made to feel responsible for
their troubles by repeating something I had heard his mother say.
Did Ed think I had lied to him to torment him? Was he so psychologically
impacted by this incident that his bitterness became a permanent
unconscious attitude toward me? That is the only thing I can think
of to explain his bizarre behavior toward me, a mysteriously treacherous
behavior not remotely duplicated by any other.
I would see, many years later, that all these things were necessary,
ordered from above. This experience of classical two-facedness would
serve as a foundational conditioner in my life and calling. God was
preparing me.
Particle –Mother Tongue Forbidden
The Riverbend country school had anywhere from 15 to 20 students
at a time, comprising grades one to eight. Every one of them was
Ukrainian or Polish. The teachers were Ukrainian. Everybody understood
and spoke Ukrainian. I do not recall anyone there other than Ukrainians
and Poles.
One day Ed and I started verbally sparring with each other and were
calling one another names. In Ukrainian, I called him an old lady
(“stara baba”) and he called me the same. The teacher
overheard us, called us over, and strapped us.
Why did he strap us? It was not because we were arguing or calling
each other names or talking in class. It was not for vulgarity, because
there was none. It was because we were speaking Ukrainian. We were
to speak English and English only. It was the only physical punishment
I ever received in school.
So while the aboriginal peoples of Canada cry foul because they
were denied their language rights in school, perhaps people should
know that Ukrainians were also denied those rights. And it was Ukrainians
who enforced the strict letter of the law against their own language
and people. It could be argued that we needed to learn English, the
sooner, the better.
Particle –Lying and Cheating
To promote good health and hygiene, a chart with our names was posted
at the front, with certain activities listed that were required of
us, like eating from each of the four food groups, brushing teeth,
washing, and so forth. It was based on an honor system. Depending
on our performance, each day we would receive a blue, red, or gold
star. I wanted to have a steady stream of gold stars, the highest
award.
One day, I believe it was a certain food that I missed having, or
I had forgotten to brush my teeth, so I lied when questioned. The
teacher knew I was lying, the kids knew I was lying, but I insisted,
knowing they could not prove anything. I got my star, but the pleasure
in having it was gone, gone, gone.
It is a sad thing that people lose their peace of mind and even
their souls – for what? Recognition, honor, respect, pride?
Why not be honored for honoring? Are we honoring and respecting our
neighbor, from whom we hope to receive honor and respect, when we
cheat and lie to him? What irony! What a contradictory heart beats
in our breasts! We are proud creatures, and we stop at nothing to
satisfy our pride.
Particle –“Maybe” vs. “Mother”
Somewhere, somehow, I got it into my head that the word “maybe” was “mother” or
vice versa. When I came home for a weekend and told my mother, she
tried to correct me, to no avail. I had learned in officialdom by
a “real teacher” that “maybe” was “mother,” and
who was my mother to tell me differently? I argued stubbornly. I
don’t recall how my exasperated mother resolved the issue;
I only recall vaguely that she proved me wrong.
What is it about officialdom that causes a child to disrespect and
distrust a parent’s judgment and authority or to go against
common sense? Is it the way the parent nurtures, teaches, and trains
the child? Or are we as children vulnerable to a societal influence
that overrides our respect for individual family members, even our
parents? Is there no family loyalty, no honoring of parents that
comes before respect of strangers? Or are we by nature an erring
lot from the womb? Is it all of the above?
Is this how tyrannical rulers take over children and train them
to betray their parents, to death if necessary? I withstood my mother
over a misunderstanding on my part. What happens when children are
deliberately indoctrinated, with lies or propaganda fed them repeatedly
when they are young and malleable? I mistakenly believed a simple
error, one I was not taught, and I could not be told otherwise by
my own mother. How intransigent we can be in error! I think of the
quiet monsters created in our public schools with evolution, atheism,
humanism, amoral sexuality, and other lie systems.
Particle –A Confounding Home
Auntie and Uncle Atamanchuk had an 800 square foot bungalow. On
the main floor, there were two small bedrooms, a small kitchen/dining
area with a chrome and red arborite table with chrome and red vinyl
chairs, a cupboard, and fridge. There was also a small adjoining
open dining room with a wooden formal dining table and chairs, hutch,
sofa, kerosene heating stove, and a tiny enclosed front room/sewing
room. This was the main floor of the house, but… we never lived
there!
The house had an unfinished basement with painted cement walls and
rustic wooden floor. There, they had a large old woodstove for cooking
and heating, a cot, a wooden table with bench and four chairs, an
open wash area with basin, hanging towel hook, and small mirror;
a tiny cupboard with a galvanized steel water pail and common enamel
dipper for drinking, a wooden Wabasso crate for firewood storage
under the unfinished stairs, some wooden benches along portions of
the walls, a large 500 gallon water storage tank, a floor model cream
separator, ringer washer, and adjoining closed storage cellar for
root vegetables, canning, and general goods. The basement had two
tiny windows.
Except for sleeping, that’s where we lived - that was the
strange part to me. I can understand why they would choose to live
in the cool basement in the heat of the summer, but year round?
Particle –Embarrassment, Confusion, and Humiliation
The Hafichuk family gathered at the Atamanchuks for some special
event, likely Christmas. People were all seated in their basement,
with two four-seater backless benches placed end-to-end between the
stairs and the main living area. On those benches sat Uncle Bill
Atamanchuk and Don Hafichuk, among others. Their backs were to the
stairs, the only exit from the basement. My brother Archie and I
were standing quietly against the wall opposite, facing the seated
people - just quietly standing there. (I must have been six or seven
and he a couple of years younger.)
Suddenly, Archie hit me in the stomach from the side. I was surprised.
I said, “What are you doing?” I wanted no part of a spectacle
in front of everyone, so I ignored him. Seconds later, he hit me
again, this time harder. I looked at him, shocked that he should
try to pick a fight with me and wouldn’t back off. It was perplexing.
I tried to ward him off with a couple of light body punches and leave
it at that. He came at me with all he had and knocked the wind out
of me. I started crying.
Then I saw a reaction from Uncle Don. I thought he was pitying me,
so I began heading over to him to be comforted, but as I approached
him, he ignored me and was cheering Archie for being the tough guy.
Uncle was laughing and cheering him as well. I realized I was the
loser, without sympathy, and quickly passed by the benches and up
the stairs.
Slow on the uptake, it was many years later that I realized that
one or both of my uncles (likely Uncle Bill) had secretly goaded
Archie into striking me while I wasn’t looking, for some devilish
excitement, I suppose. Decades later, in a dream I had after he died,
God would reveal Uncle’s cruel nature to me.
Particle – “Wish
I Wasn’t Born” Birthdays
My birthday anniversaries were always painful, sometimes physically.
On my seventh or eighth birthday, I came home to Auntie and Uncle’s,
headed straight for the upstairs woodstove, which Auntie never used,
and put both my hands flat on the surface. Why? I guess I sensed,
by heat perhaps, that something was going on with it and decided
to prove myself wrong. Auntie rushed upstairs when she heard me screaming
in pain, and she began to nurse my wounds with salve and wrap. Both
hands were fully blistered.
On another birthday, I ran across a pool of water in the schoolyard
and slipped on ice concealed beneath (it was the time of spring melt).
Not having a change of clothing, I was stuck with the wet, soiled
clothes for the rest of the day. I recall such a thing happening
only once, and it had to be on my birthday.
On a birthday, the teacher asked me to come forward to ring the
hand bell to start the day. I thought I was being honored. Instead,
I was being fooled. I shook the bell…no sound. They had taken
the ringer out. They all shouted, “April Fool!” and laughed.
Had I been of a carefree disposition, as some seem to be, I would
have laughed, too, but I was anything but carefree. I think I was
spoiled and proud and was getting all that I deserved or needed.
Also, the Lord was showing me, even then, that observing birthdays
was not something with which He was at all pleased. He certainly
wasn’t pleased with mine. And I never felt comfortable with
anyone’s birthday party. While I understood nothing about birthdays
then, the time would come that I would understand, being informed.
Particle –Turkey Trouble
Auntie and Uncle kept a bronze variety of turkeys. When I was six
or seven, I often teased a hen that sat on her eggs in a shack. She
would then come after me, and I would run away. She usually turned
back. One day I crossed the line, and she did not turn back. I panicked,
tripped, and fell. She jumped on my head, scratching my face.
My uncle stood watching from inside the barn across the yard, leaning
on the bottom half of the split barn door. It seemed like he was
not doing anything to help me. I had been asking for trouble, and
perhaps he thought I needed a lesson. I have the scar near my right
eye to this day over half a century later. I consider that I could
have lost my eyes. I did learn not to pester the hen anymore.
Particle –Victoria Comes to Victor
One day, Auntie and Uncle drove to Angusville, Manitoba to visit
some people and took me with them. As we walked, I spotted something
on the gravel road. Picking it up, it appeared to be an old coin.
When we brought it back to the house and cleaned it up, we discovered
that it was an 1891 Queen Victoria large penny. I was excited! Maybe
it was worth a lot. It turned out that it was worth very little,
especially in its marred condition. The seed of collecting coins
was planted, however, and not many years later would bring enjoyment
and even bear a modest financial return for a young kid.
Particle –Pride Goes Before Destruction
We were in Angusville because the eldest son (Lawrence) of Auntie
and Uncle’s neighbors (the Fydoras) was marrying a woman there.
I recall the way they carried on whenever Lawrence dropped by to
use the phone to call his fiancée (his family didn’t
have a phone). He used every love expression one could ever hear,
putting Cyrano de Bergerac to complete shame – even Cyrano’s
swordsmanship wouldn’t help. It was unreal. I would later imitate
him, and Auntie and I had a good laugh about it.
Lawrence’s mother treated him and his brothers as though they
were God’s peculiar and precious gifts to mankind, raising
them to have a high estimation of themselves. The consequences followed.
I would find out the tragic fruits of his unreality several years
later.
Particle –Art and Me
Perhaps I sound like a whiner with a victim mentality. I am not
sure why I relate some of these unpleasant memories, but somehow
I expect they will serve their purpose for others. Whenever I had “good
things” happening, those would often find a way of turning
sour.
I brought some of my prize school materials home from Auntie and
Uncle’s, things like pieces of artwork for which I received
rare praise and recognition in the midst of a general climate of
ridicule and ostracism. I had once copied and colored a picture of
a yellow baby duck sitting on a stone well with roof, rope, and bucket.
The teacher and students all gathered around, marveling and praising
me. How different from the usual it was!
At home, my younger brother Archie and sister Barbara
had free access to the cupboard where my personal belongings were
stored and destroyed
my precious possessions. I was frustrated and angry at my mother
for letting them do these things. Obviously, I placed great value
on them while she did not. I don’t know that I was ever able
to forgive them or her for these things until God took hold of
my life many years later.
While in high school, I tried building a plywood storage cupboard
with a lock on it to preserve my possessions. Archie always found
a way to break into it and take whatever he wanted.
I’ll get ahead of myself chronologically here for a few moments
and tell of another pleasurable art incident in school: I once did
an 8” x 11” crayoned abstract when I was about ten or
so. The teacher, Mrs. Cassin, gathered the students, displayed my
piece to them and my father, and even invited other parents to see
it.
Why did I not become an artist? I enjoyed it, yet I did not pursue
it. I wished that we had more of it in school, but the curricula
contained almost nothing in art. I missed it, was not encouraged
in it, and opportunities were not provided. It was not given to me
to be an artist.
Particle –From
Hell to Heaven
When I began attending the Dauphin Plains school, it
was a relief for more than one reason. First, the food intake was
drastically reduced so that I began to lose weight. I immediately
ceased wetting and soiling myself. Second, for some wonderful reason,
Gordon Ryz, a boy my age and grade, took a distinct liking to me.
From a “Gordon” who hated me to a “Gordon” who
loved me - from “fatty, fatty two-by-four” to “chubby,
cuddly Teddy bear”! He was tickled with me! Having his favor,
and he being popular, all others seemed obliged or inclined to treat
me well.
He was “heaven-sent,” like welcome rain
on a parched ground, or sunshine breaking up a long, dark, gloomy
day. I found it hard to believe and impossible to comprehend, but
I thoroughly enjoyed it. We became close friends for a while; I suppose
that after the novelty wore off, he became more objective or normal.
But it lasted long enough to encourage me on life’s road.
Particle – Car
Trouble
The Cassins bought a new blue ’59 Chevrolet Impala
with the “revolutionary” tail
fins. In those days there was often pride, at least among kids, as
to what brand of car their family owned. It seemed to almost define
what kind of person you were. My father was a “Ford man,” that
is, until his older brother Bill became a car salesman with the Dauphin
Dodge-Chrysler dealer, Tibby Munro.
My friend Gordie Ryz’s father Frank also bought
a new Chevy with fins, and they were proud of their car. Gordie and
I had a slightly
competitive spirit as to whose brand was better. In those days
imports were not common; Ford, GM, and Dodge/Plymouth/Chrysler were
the big three. Volkswagen was just breaking into the market,
and there was the oddball or two, like Kaiser-Frazer, which somewhat
impressed Uncle Fred Prestayko.
With some other kids standing around, I fell into banter
with Mrs. Cassin about her car first thing one morning as she was
opening the
school. “Fords are better,” I contended, though I had
no clue why. Back and forth we went, until she came
back with, “Fords are no better than a tin can with a stone
rattling in it.” The kids chuckled, and Mrs. Cassin broke into
loud laughter. I was stumped and went into heavy duty embarrassment
mode, speechless, with face red and contorted… trying to save
face, yet losing it.
I felt awful. I deserved it, though, for being
disrespectful of elders and authorities. And I learned not to enter
into debate or competition with anyone unless I was
prepared and knew what I was talking about, not that I always heeded
the lesson. I also learned some manners, like not being smart-alecky.
Particle – Never Invite Yourself Where
Not Invited
We all wanted to go out trick-or-treating in our
costumes at Halloween for free apples and candy (mostly candy, of
course). The problem was living in the country. Who was going to
drive miles for a few candies? My dad certainly wouldn’t. Who
was ready to hand out treats to kids in the country? I so wished
I could be in town and go house-to-house until I filled a big bag
with goodies.
I found out that the Cassins’ older son Larry had invited
Gordie Ryz for Halloween night in Dauphin. He would leave with Mrs.
Cassin after school that day, stay the night with them, and return
the next morning with Mrs. Cassin to school.
I wanted in. I recall being persistent and others hesitant,
and finally they let me come. I felt guilty and unwanted, not that
there
seemed to be any overt expressions from anyone to make me feel that
way. It seemed they tried to accommodate me, though not
enthusiastically. I felt I was putting a damper on things for
them.
We went out that night in our costumes, Larry, Clinton
(Larry’s
younger brother), Gordie, and I. It turned out to be not such a
big deal. We got our treats, not nearly as many as I imagined we
would,
returned to the Cassin home, and went to bed.
I didn’t sleep well at all that night. Talk about
a fish out of water. I was embarrassed that I had forced myself where
I wasn’t
wanted. While I had my own bed, the covers were strange and uncomfortable,
and the room was too warm. It was awkward being in a strange
home, having to rise early, and coping with uncustomary circumstances
and unfamiliar etiquette. Being introverted and shy, it was a trying
experience. It may not have been a nightmare, but close. I didn’t
think I would ever want to go anywhere again where I wasn’t
wanted, certainly not for fun or candy.
There was also something about Halloween I was uncomfortable with.
I didn’t understand what it was, but one day I would.
Particle – Troubled Teacher
I don’t know if anyone knew if it was a nervous
breakdown or menopause or simply stress, but Mrs. Cassin had emotional
problems. She would have outbursts of anger and would break down
and cry in class. I recall my father and other parents trying to
have personal talks with her. It was rough on the kids; they never
knew what to expect. I think it was because of these problems that
Mrs. Cassin eventually left. I saw her several years later,
and she warmly greeted me.
Particle –Smash, Scatter, and Sour the Sweets!
One day, Dad came home from town announcing that he had bought a
treat for us. If we were good, he would give it to us later. We did
chores, finished supper, and waited until it was almost time for
bed. Because we were so very unaccustomed to treats, not even getting
them at Christmas, we were eager and impatient, pestering him relentlessly.
Suddenly, he rose up, stormed out the door, and returned in a rage. “Slam!” went
the door and “Smash!” went the cellophane bag of licorice
allsorts all over the kitchen floor. “HAVE YOUR DAMN
TREAT!” he
bellowed.
We sat there, stunned and frightened - but not for long. We sheepishly
slipped off our chairs and on to the floor, groveling and crawling
in humiliation, gathering the candies.
They were under the woodstove, the table, the freestanding cupboard,
and everywhere else. We didn’t miss a nook or cranny. There
were great balls of fluffy dust, and the candies were mixed in the
dust, but we didn’t care. We gathered and ate, I trying to
swallow with a lump in my throat. We sorrowfully learned the literal
meaning of the word “bittersweet.” But how much more
bitter to the soul than sweet to the mouth!
Why do I tell this story? I see lessons here, not that I was able
to take advantage of them until I was granted a new nature to not
only learn and practice those lessons, but also to possess their
value within:
One: That which is pleasing to the flesh is not worth the cost incurred
to the soul and the assault on legitimate human dignity.
Two: Perhaps it is good not to promise something to children, then
delay keeping the promise if it is going to cause strife and torment.
Yet does not God try His children, promising first and then taking
us through a trial of waiting for the fulfillment? Indeed, it often
appears that the opposite happens – that He breaks His promise.
Three (the most important one): Do not wrest something from, or
press someone for, anything. Be patient and wait. Better not to have
it than to get it in an unpleasant way, incurring the giver’s
wrath.
I dare not press God for things He is not pleased to give me at
the present time. Having learned His ways, however, I do have confidence
that He will, in due time, gladly give me what I ask without badgering
Him for it in unbelief.
Unlike my earthly father, who often broke promises to us and whom
we subsequently did not trust to keep his word (which is partially
why we badgered him), the Heavenly Father will keep His promise without
coercion or begging.
The Scriptural example of the importunate (persistent) widow of
Luke 18, by the way, is not an example of badgering. Jesus was speaking
not of pestering, but of the sure reward of an indomitable faith
and unsurrendered hope.
Particle –Tearing of Ties, and Tears
When my brother Archie came of school age, our parents decided that
we would begin to attend the Dauphin Plains country school nearly
two miles from our home. Leaving Auntie and Uncle’s at the
end of grade two was a very sad time for me. I would not be returning
to my second home and those who had become my second set of parents.
Many years later, Auntie confided to me that she wept
bitterly in the following days from sorrow and loneliness. I don’t
recall perceiving their sadness at the time. I only know that I was
very
sad, yet I had mixed feelings, too. I wish now that I had had the
knowledge and ability to console her then, but I also know that things
had to be the way they were.
Particle –Perishing for Lack of Knowledge
An irony is that children are exposed to these trials of life without
the ability, opportunity, or knowledge to deal with them as adults
may. The greater tragedy is that adults often lack the ability, opportunity,
or knowledge, too, though one would think they should have these
advantages. Or they are unwilling to exercise them, for whatever
reason. One day, I would come to possess the Answer to this crippling
problem.
Particle –“Mr.
Christmas Tree”
A pleasant memory is of my neighbor friend’s (Raymond’s)
grandmother, Mrs. John McKillop. She took me under wing in third
grade and taught me to sing “Mr. Christmas Tree” at school
Christmas concerts, while she played piano. For some reason, it was
a hit, and they took me to sing at both the Riverbend and the Dauphin
Plains schools. People laughed and cheered.
“Mr. Christmas Tree, tell me if you see, a jolly old man passing
by, in a coat of red, and my mommy said, he’s got a little
twinkle in his eye….”
Particle –Rocks in the Harvest
When I was only eight years old, Uncle Bill got me to help him each
fall with the grain (wheat, barley, and oats) harvest. I drove the
John Deere AR tractor that pulled the binder, on which he sat and
operated. I had to grab and pull the long steel floor clutch real
fast to stop us from hitting large rocks hidden in the standing grain,
which would have damaged the tractor or binder. One field was particularly
rocky, with rocks ranging in size from footballs to two gallon water
pails. I had to stand in the tractor all day, being too short to
see coming rocks soon enough if seated.
Uncle was very happy and full of praise when I spotted them and
stopped soon enough. He was full of anger and curses when I did not.
I learned how to cuss very well (why didn’t I learn to praise?).
It was a serious matter if the binder broke down from hitting a rock.
Farmers have only so much time to get their harvest in. A breakdown
needing repairs could be very costly, not so much in parts and labor
as loss of harvest income.
Particle –The Imitation of Christ
I must relate a peculiar event, one that seems perverse, yet I believe
it contained the seeds of the call of God on me - I was inclined
to identify with Jesus Christ and His sufferings. At the bottom of
the stairs, on the main floor, I placed myself against the wall and
stretched my arms across the horizontal wall trim and asked Archie
and Barbara to pretend I was Jesus and they were crucifying me. They
followed through, play-acting.
My mother saw it and objected, but not strongly. I believe it struck
her and caused her to wonder why children would do this sort of thing.
The day would come when that bit of play-acting became a spiritual
reality.
Particle –Comes
An Ex-Soldier Helping
One day a tall, lanky stranger came by our farm looking
for work. He, Jim Carson, had been in the Canadian Army in World
War II, and when the war was over, there were many soldiers on the
road searching for work. My father said he couldn’t afford
to hire anyone, so Jim worked for room and board.
He was a gift from above to my parents - dependable,
capable, cheerful, voluntarily up early every morning to do the chores.
He was a hard worker, enjoyed playing with us kids, and had a sense
of humor. He was an all around “good guy”; we all loved
him.
Particle –Brass
Tacks, Brash Tactics, and Grass Tackles
Sonny Dawson, a large, strong, boisterous man, paid
Dad a visit. When introduced to Jim and hearing that he had been
in the army, Sonny challenged him to a fight. While Sonny was close
to 250 pounds, Jim was likely about 190 pounds. Sonny didn’t
believe all that “nonsense” about how men trained in
the army and size wasn’t the decisive factor in hand-to-hand
combat. So Jim, Sonny, and my father headed out to the pasture.
Jim proceeded to turn Sonny into a sore sack of potatoes,
tossed about at will, somewhat mashed. Sonny quickly learned to believe
all that “nonsense.” My dad was impressed with Jim’s
skills, and he often told the story with pleasure.
I don’t recall how long Jim was with us – two
or three years maybe? Years after he left, he returned for a visit
while recovering from a serious injury. He had been clearing brush,
when the operator of a nearby bulldozer decided to play around. He
swung his blade and “accidentally” struck Jim, tearing
off a large section of muscle in his upper leg.
Jim was never the same again. I hope things went well
for him.
Do accidents happen, or are they caused? Was the man
fooling around, or was it intentional? The results are much the same.
This would not be the last time I heard of a man coming
home safely from war and getting injured in work or play.
Particle –Disease Deals Our Dairy a Devastation
Our main livelihood was our small Holstein dairy milk production.
My father had a quota that provided us with an income of approximately
$200/month, about ten times that in today’s figures - not a
lot, but we got by. While we also had grain revenues, we had farm
expenses to pay as well, like buying machinery and paying for utilities,
upkeep, and fuel - expenses not factored into non-farm incomes.
I was likely about nine or so when I was awakened around midnight
by sobbing. I got out of bed and headed downstairs to find Mom and
Dad sitting at the table with a bunch of papers before them and handkerchiefs
to their faces. Their eyes were red and tear-filled. I hadn’t
heard of anyone dying. I wondered what in the world could be wrong. “Go
to bed,” they said. But I wanted to know what was wrong, and
they told me.
Not that long before, Dad had purchased a milk cow from a farmer
some miles away. It would have been good to have her checked out
and certified as healthy; as it turned out, she had the dreaded Bang’s
disease (Brucellosis). The contagious disease spread, and the entire
dairy herd had to be put down. There was nothing to salvage from
it. It was heartbreaking.
We survived the crisis; they borrowed money, held their milk quota,
bought a fresh herd, and continued, but I believe it was a major
factor in their beginning to consider another livelihood. Farming
as we knew it simply wasn’t easy for us.