Hi Rolande and welcome in the Lord Jesus Christ!
For answers to your question about the gift of tongues, read
http://www.thepathoftruth.com/teachings ... aptism.htm" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;
Avail yourself of the TPOT. It answers many questions and issues. But if you don't find the answers, don't hesitate to post your requests here.
I appreciate your candidly sharing with us. Not only does it help you, it also ministers to others. The Lord appreciates discreet honesty. Your freedom and ability to exhibit honesty about the unpleasantries in your life tell us the Lord is doing His work with you, the fruits of which will bless everyone.
The Lord is showing mercy to, cleansing, healing and delivering you, making you fit for His company, service and glory. Can there be better news and events for anyone?